SEXUAL PERVASION IN ISLAM
Part 1 of 6
[A word of caution: This article contains sexually explicit terms and coarse language that may offend many readers. The author will not take any responsibility in the event any reader may become upset reading this essay. My request to them: please do refrain from reading this essay if you are likely to be offended. You have been forewarned.]
There is more to sex in Islam than meets the eye. Do you care to know that sex is the biggest taboo in Islam? It is a topic that is fraught with fear and seldom discussed by the followers of Islam, except when they are in trouble or when they go to a foreign/infidel country to ‘enjoy’ women there. Islam pretends as if sexual organs do not exit either in a male or in a female. A woman is covered from head to toe just to hide her ‘awra,’ which is the Islamic vocabulary for the part of body that arouses sexual desire in a man, or the ‘shame’ of her. Thus, sexual organs are shameful parts of a body! It is a great insult to a woman to depict her entire body as shameful. It is also a great insult to all men. Why? Because, this gives the impression that men are like beasts that are on the street, just on the lookout there for women to prowl on for sex. This is completely nonsense. While living in an infidel country, I have watched millions of kufur women dressed in very decent as well as not so decent dresses. However, never have I seen a single man jump on a woman in the street to copulate with her, despite her mode of dressing being aphrodisiac or in plain word ‘sexy.’ The Islamic concept of sex is based on Bedouin Arab culture, that is barbaric and uncivilized, to say the least, when compared to today’s world. This is because sex is so a ‘dirty’ word and it is so ‘severely’ restricted in Islam that as a inquisitive person I became extremely interested in it and devoured any written material that dealt with sex in Islam. To my surprise, I found that so little information is available, although there are tons and tons of books on Tafseer, ahadith
Sharia, fiqh and the list goes on for all other branches of Islamic studies. Therefore, I had to write from scratch without much help from Islamic/other sources. Another big surprise for me was that the restrictions on sex for men in Islam are just superficial. There are countless loopholes in Islamic rules, so much so that it is possible for a Muslim man, whether married or not, to have uninterruptible supply of sex if he so desires. But he must know the rules of the game very well, if not, then he may fall into a great torment. There are many secrets and untold provisions for sex in Islam that very few Mullahs will tell.
How pleasant a quilt is in winter? Or a Chinese dish for the test buds? Good poems, songs, arts, or sculptures immensely please a cultured mind. Did you notice that very rarely physical and mental pleasures meet in one single element? Sex, as the climax of this type, always has been one of the strongest driving forces of mankind, especially men. Handling of sex by a society reflects its level and maturity. At times Islamic aspect of human sexuality overlaps with “Status of Women,” but the two are not the same. Compared to other social/religious systems of the world, Islam gives sex and sexual “purity” an extraordinary importance with inherent contradictions/conflicts so much so that we may safely say that Islam is over-obsessed, oversensitive and over-apprehensive about sex.
This essay is an attempt to expose the hypocrisy, double standard, unfairness, absurdity and sheer irrationality of Islam when it comes to sex. It also examines the barbaric rules that Islam inflicts on innocent people for having a simple sexually satisfying relationship whether one is married or not that Islam unjustly and illogically construes as ‘haram.’ One must not forget however how crucial sex is in our life. In the first place, without sex, none of us will be in this world for sure. Darwinian evolution would have stopped eons ago! So think about it for a moment.
Let us begin with the first principle of Islamic sex for men, that is:
Have virgins for fun and frolic
In Islam, keeping the virginity is the highest asset that a woman could possess. There is no crime/sin as despicable as that of losing the virginity before a woman is married. The thought of indulging in pre-marital sex by an adult woman is absolutely unthinkable in Islam (For men it is a different story altogether. As we shall see later, it is possible for an unmarried Muslim man to be engaged in sex with slave-girls/captive/infidel women but not with free Muslim women). Mind you, premarital sex is a serious crime that may involve severe punishment for the offender; one hundred Islamic lashing for the unmarried woman (or man) and stoning to death for the married woman (or man). This punishment is hudud, which means that there is no way the offender can escape the severity of this kind of barbaric torment. Once the punishment has been passed down, it must be carried out at any cost. So much for Islamic mercy and tolerance! If you thought that I am being too critical, then please be reminded that in Islam, homicide is not such a serious offence as sex is. That is to say, the punishment for a murder can be commuted to other sentence like Qias (retaliation) or Diya (blood money). Now contrast this if you will, with the laws for sexual offences. It looks like that taking a life is much simpler and easier than making love, especially for women, if we go by the Islamic rules. How barbaric and at the same time myopic view!
Who do you think is the ‘real’ owner of our sexual organs, in particular the sexual organs of women? No, it is not we, the humankinds. It is Islam. Believe it or not, Islam owns the sexual organs of every Muslim man and woman in this universe, all of it, including even the pubic hairs that grow there! Here is what the ahadith say about how to manage a woman’s pubic hair.
Wife must shave pubic hair if husband returns home at night after a long journey...7.62.173
Bukhari:Volume 7, Book 62, Number 173:
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
The Prophet said, "If you enter (your town) at night (after coming from a journey), do not enter upon your family till the woman whose husband was absent (from the house) shaves her pubic hair and the woman with unkempt hair, combs her hair" Allah's Apostle further said, "(O Jabir!) Seek to have offspring, seek to have offspring!"
Five practices of fitra 1. Circumcision; 2.
Shaving pubic region; 3. Clipping nails 4. Cutting mustache short; 5. Removal of arm pit hair...7.72.777
Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 72, Number 777:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said, "Five practices are characteristics of the Fitra: circumcision, shaving the pubic region, clipping the nails and cutting the moustaches short."
One may wonder why Allah is so free to look into what a human possess between his/her two thighs. We always thought Allah has more important affairs to attend to!
If you ever thought that Allah gave you the sexual organ for your use as per your desire, then perish that thought. From birth to death, from adulthood to old age, from house to desert, every aspect of the use of your very own private part is controlled by innumerable, mindless, cruel and oftentimes utterly despicable Islamic rules as written in the Sha’ria, the so-called divine laws of Allah. One may legitimately ask why Sha’ria does not control the use of sexual organs of animals like cows, goats, horses, pigs, lions, tigers, birds, snakes, turtles and all other species that engage in copulation for fun and/or reproduction. It looks as if the animals have much more freedom on sexual activities than the human beings—the best creation of Allah! Please give a serious thought on this and you cannot but be amazed by the downright infringement by Islam on the very basic right of a human being which is his/her privacy. The extreme barbarism in Islam to control the innate, natural and instinctive sexual desire and its joy is particularly aimed at keeping the virginity of women intact at all cost even going to the extreme of execution of a woman who dare to express her sexual desire in an un-Islamic (read pre-marital or otherwise) way.
One may wonder why Islam is so utterly obsessed with the virginity of women. I often thought about this after I came to the infidel land. In this land of ‘sinners’ and ‘prostitutes’ and ‘sluts,’ sex between consenting adults is not viewed as a crime, although application of physical force for carnal gratification may constitute a serious act of violence, which may carry prison sentence. In an Islamic paradise, on the other hand, sex between two opposite partners (or same sex partners) is absolutely haram whether consensual or not. More importantly, sexual gratification by a woman outside the bond of marriage is completely forbidden. Many Muslims who come to live in a western society will have great difficulty in understanding the values and ethos upon which their (the so called infidel west) concept of sexuality of men and women are based upon. To these Muslim men, most women who indulge in sex before their marriage are prostitutes, harlots, and whores and are available for an easy lay. That is why a lot of devout Muslim men have a hard time to have easy and professional relations with the western/infidel women they meet. For a Muslim man, a non-virgin woman is totally unthinkable for his consideration of marriage. These infidel women are for having a good time and for ‘one-night stand’ only. According to Islam, an unmarried woman must keep her sexual and reproductive organ in complete lock under any and all circumstances till she gets married. I gave a deep pondering over this issue of blatant deprivation of sexual joy in the name of Allah and religion. Then, while examining the Sahi
Bukhari and Sahi Muslim, the most authentic of all ahadith, I came across with the following gems of ahadith. I found the reason why Allah is so paranoid on keeping intact the virginity of women at all times before marriage. Let us read these ahadith.
Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 16:
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
While we were returning from a Ghazwa (Holy Battle) with the Prophet, I started driving my camel fast, as it was a lazy camel A rider came behind me and pricked my camel with a spear he had with him, and then my camel started running as fast as the best camel you may see. Behold! The rider was the Prophet himself. He said, 'What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, I am newly married " He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron? I replied, "A matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?" When we were about to enter (Medina), the Prophet said, "Wait so that you may enter (Medina) at night so that the lady of unkempt hair may comb her hair and the one whose husband has been absent may shave her pubic region.
Bukhari Volume 3, Book 38, Number 504:
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
I was accompanying the Prophet on a journey and was riding a slow camel that was lagging behind the others. [...] When we approached Medina, I started going (towards my house). The Prophet said, "Where are you going?" I said, "I have married a widow." He said, "Why have you not married a virgin to fondle with each other?"[...]
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3459:
Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allah be pleased with them) reported: I married a woman, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to me: Have you married? I said: Yes. He said: Is it a virgin or a previously married one (widow or divorced)? I said: With a previously married one, whereupon he said: Where had you been (away) from the amusements of virgins? Shu'ba said: I made a mention of it to 'Amr b. Dinar and he said: I too heard from Jabir making mention of that (that Allah's Apostle) said: Why didn't you marry a girl, so that you might sport with her and she might sport with you?
Please read those three ahadith once again. What picture do we get of a husband who is gracious enough in marrying a widow? Now contrast this with the recommendation of Muhammad (pbuh), the Prophet of Islam. What picture do we get of a husband who is obsessed in marrying a virgin possibly a very young virgin for that matter? Yes, it is the picture of a husband who is a molester, a sexual molester per se, if we say it bluntly. Remember, this is the recommendation from the messenger of Allah, who, himself had only one virgin girl in his harem. He must have found it exceedingly fun to be married with a very young virgin girl. This kind of child/female/sexual molestation must have the seal of approval of Allah, the almighty. Can this pleasure of sexual molestation be the real reason for Allah’s absolute obsession with the virginity of young women? Can it be that Allah, Himself loves to fondle the virgins, since we read in the Quran that He has an abundant supply of virgin houris for His followers of Islam? Here are a few samples of verses from the holy Qur’an to demonstrate Allah’s total fascination with the virginity of women.
044.051 As to the Righteous (they will be) in a position of Security,
044.052 Among Gardens and Springs;
044.053 Dressed in fine silk and in rich brocade, they will face each other;
044.054 So; and We shall join them to fair women with beautiful, big, and lustrous eyes.
055.056 In them will be (Maidens), chaste, restraining their glances, whom no man or Jinn before them has touched;-
055.057 Then which of the favours of your Lord will ye deny?-
055.058 Like unto Rubies and coral.
055.072 Companions restrained (as to their glances), in (goodly) pavilions;-
055.073 Then which of the favours of your Lord will ye deny?-
Whom no man or Jinn before them has touched;-
055.075 Then which of the favours of your Lord will ye deny?-
056.035: We have created (their Companions) of special creation.
056.036 And made them virgin - pure (and undefiled), -
056.037 Beloved (by nature), equal in age,-
056.038 For the Companions of the Right Hand.
078.031 Verily for the Righteous there will be a fulfilment of (the heart's) desires;
078.032 Gardens enclosed, and grapevines;
078.033 And voluptuous women of equal age;
078.034 And a cup full (to the brim).
Now you know why one must marry a virgin and a very young woman, for that matter. Yes, it is for fun and pleasure, similar to the enjoyment that Allah enjoys and has reserved for the ‘true’ believers in His paradise.
Who needs sex in a hurry but does not want to go through the elaborate ritual of marriage and the payment of expensive dower? Of course, many people would love to have this kind of quickie sex without much obligations. No wonder that there are so many women engaged in the world’s oldest profession just to meet this demand from depraved men. In modern parlance, we call it ‘one-night’ stand. Believe it or not, Islam has its equivalence too!
The Islamic counterpart of one-night stand is known as the M’uta marriage. In this kind of contract marriage, a man simply contracts a woman to sleep with him for a brief period only. Although the Sunnis have banned the M'uta system, it is very much in practice among the Shiites. It is quite possible to have a
M'uta marriage every night and kick the woman out next morning. There is no need of divorce in a
M'uta marriage. This type of marriage is a contract to sleep together and that is all. Also, remember that though there is a restriction of up to four permanent wives at any time, there is no such restriction on the number of temporary wives that one can have at any given moment. In modern language, we call this 'one night stand'. M’uta marriage has absolutely no time limit either. So, "one-night's play" is perfectly Islamic. With M’uta system, it is possible to have unlimited, non-stop sex round the clock. It is stated that Imam Hasan, the grandson of Muhammad (pbuh) collected up to three hundred sex partners (the Islamic terminology is temporary wives) besides his regular wives, to have one-night stand with them. Imam Hasan was definitely an Islamic 'Playboy' of his time. No doubt about it! See, how clever of Islam to have solution even for the playboys of their Ummah.
Here I am quoting from a Sahi
hadis to show how one can have concubines for one-night stand
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3253:
Rabi' b. Sabra reported that his father went on an expedition with Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) during the Victory of Mecca, and we stayed there for fifteen days (i. e. for thirteen full days and a day and a night), and Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) permitted us to contract temporary marriage with women. So I and another person of my tribe went out, and I was more handsome than he, whereas he was almost ugly. Each one of us had a cloaks, My cloak was worn out, whereas the cloak of my cousin was quite new. As we reached the lower or the upper side of Mecca, we came across a young woman like a young smart long-necked she-camel. We said: Is it possible that one of us may contract temporary marriage with you? She said: What will you give me as a dower? Each one of us spread his cloak. She began to cast a glance on both the persons. My companion also looked at her when she was casting a glance at her side and he said: This cloak of his is worn out, whereas my cloak is quite new. She, however, said twice or thrice: There is no harm in (accepting) this cloak (the old one). So I contracted temporary marriage with her, and I did not come out (of this) until Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) declared it forbidden.
Mu’tah means enjoyment---(ref.6, p. 424)
“Usufruct, enjoyment.” A marriage contracted for a limited period, for a certain sum of money. Such marriages are still legal amongst the Shi’ahs, and exist in Persia (Malcom’s
vol.II.p. 591) to the present day, but they are said to be unlawful by the Sunnis. They were permitted by the Arabian Prophet at Autas, and are undoubtedly the greatest stain upon the moral legislation but the Sunnis say that he afterwards prohibited a mu’tah marriage at Khaibar (Vide Mishkat, book xii. Ch iv. Pt2.).
What should you do when you see a sexy, voluptuous woman with her pulchritudinous figure and your sexual desire is aroused intensely? The Islamic solution is to hurry home to your wife and have intercourse with her immediately. In these days of easy availability of pornographic/adult materials and fetish objects, I wonder how many times one may have to run to one’s wife/s after watching a ‘stag film’ or reading a ‘smut’ magazine. Here is the hadis that tells us the story.
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3240:
Jabir reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) saw a woman, and so he came to his wife, Zainab, as she was tanning a leather and had sexual intercourse with her. He then went to his Companions and told them: The woman advances and retires in the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart.
Oh, those obligatory Ghusls
If a man is so much obsessed with the desire of sexual gratification, then he must clean himself by bath, the Islamic method of cleaning oneself after sexual defilement. Imagine how many times you may have to do that if you are influenced by fetish and hurry to your wife/s to have the ‘circumcised parts’ touch each other? Here is the Islamic rule on cleansing oneself after a sexual union.
Sahih Muslim Book 3, Number 0684:
Abu Musa reported: There cropped up a difference of opinion between a group of Muhajirs (Emigrants and a group of Ansar (Helpers) (and the point of dispute was) that the Ansar said: The bath (because of sexual intercourse) becomes obligatory only-when the semen spurts out or ejaculates. But the Muhajirs said: When a man has sexual intercourse (with the woman), a bath becomes obligatory (no matter whether or not there is seminal emission or ejaculation). Abu Musa said: Well, I satisfy you on this (issue). He (Abu Musa, the narrator) said: I got up (and went) to 'A'isha and sought her permission and it was granted, and I said to her: 0 Mother, or Mother of the Faithful, I want to ask you about a matter on which I feel shy. She said : Don't feel shy of asking me about a thing which you can ask your mother, who gave you birth, for I am too your mother. Upon this I said: What makes a bath obligatory for a person ? She replied: You have come across one well informed! The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: When anyone sits amidst four parts (of the woman) and the circumcised parts touch each other a bath becomes obligatory.
When he reaches the climax but she doesn’t (or vice versa)
Here is the Islamic solution for unfulfilled or incomplete sexual pleasure. Please amuse yourself reading these two ahadith if you have experienced this bedroom problem.
Sahih Muslim Book 3, Number 0677:
Ka'b reported: I asked the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) about a man who has sexual intercourse with his wife, but leaves her before orgasm. Upon this he (the Holy Prophet) said: He should wash the secretion of his wife, and then perform ablution and offer prayer.
Sahih Muslim Book 3, Number 0680:
Zaid b. Khalid al-Jubani reported that he askad
Uthman b. 'Affan: What is your opinion about the man who has sexual intercourse with his wife, but does not experience orgasm? Uthman said: He should perform ablution as he does for prayer, and wash his organ. 'Uthmin also said : I have heard it from the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him).
Part 2 of 6
Go ahead and enjoy a female body
In Islam, sex means the enjoyment of a female body. The notion that sex could be an exceedingly joyful experience for both male and female is sadly lacking in the Islamic concept of it. It is the man who is the actor and the decision maker in this matter and not both the partners. A woman does not actively take part or act in sexual copulation. She is merely a passive receiver of male action, simply an instrument for providing carnal pleasure to the man. At least, this is what I understood after doing a comprehensive research of the foundations of Islamic laws, that is Qur’an and ahadith.
The method of securing such sexual/physical pleasure, as per Islam, is very similar to a commercial/business transaction. In Islam, a woman has no right to get married on her own accord if she has a guardian. In all cases of marriage and sex she is treated merely as a sexual object, much like the provider of a service for which she must be paid some compensation. In Islamic parlance, this compensation for sexual service is known as mahror dower. All Muslim men must agree to pay an amount of money before marrying a woman. This payment can be immediate or it can be deferred to a future date. Now you know what a mahr is. No Islamic marriage is valid without the agreement for a dower. In reality, however, this dower is nothing but the payment for the possession of a female body for sexual gratification by the male. It is a very blunt statement, I have made, you may think. To check the veracity of such a direct and outrageous statement, please open any Sha’ria book, such as reference 8. Here is an excerpt from this authentic Sha’ria (the divine law of Allah) book.
Ownership of a woman’s body to do as he likes including beating
m5.4 (ref: 8, p.526) husbands rights
A husband possesses full right to enjoy his wife’s person (A: from the top of her head to the bottoms of her feet, though anal intercourse (dis: p75.20) is absolutely unlawful) in what does not physically harm her.
He is entitled to take her with him when he travels.
Let us also look into a book of Islamic jurisprudence that was used (during the British Raj in India) as a textbook for Hanafi laws at Inns of Law (London). It is the book, (reference 11) which even the Sha’ria lawyers consult regularly in the interpretation of Islamic laws. In page 44 of this book, it is written:
Full dower is the payment for the delivery of woman’s person, Booza, meaning Genitalia arvum
The wife entitled to her whole dower upon the consummation of the marriage or the death of the husband.—If a person specify a dower of ten or more Dirms, and should afterwards consummate his marriage, or be removed by death, his wife, in either case, has a claim to the whole of the dower specified, because, by consummation, the delivery of the return for the dower, namely the Booza, or woman’s person,* is established, and therein is confirmed the right to the consideration, namely, the dower; and, on the other hand, by the decease of the husband the marriage is rendered complete by its completion, and consequently is so with respect to all its effects.
(* Literally, Genitale
Yes, you read it correctly. The meaning of Genitalia arvum
Mulieris is woman’s vagina. The above few sentences clearly meant that a woman sells her vagina in return for the mahr. It is a commercial transaction. Make no mistake about it! Period.
This is the real meaning of sex in Islam; that is, a man buys a woman’s sex organ for enjoyment through the payment of mahr, which is the Islamic dower. Whether a woman really enjoys this kind of ‘forced’ sex is completely irrelevant in Islamic concept of sex. A man’s orgasm becomes absolutely a necessity when a woman is contracted in marriage through the payment of Islamic mahr (or its deferment to a future date).
If you thought that I am exaggerating too much and speaking ‘out of context’ then there is more surprise for you. In the same book it is written that the possession of object of contract is the actual coitus or enjoyment and the right to dower is not confirmed without enjoyment. Enjoyment of what? Please read the full text for the answer.
Case of Khalwat-SAHEEH OR RETIREMENT.—IF a man retire with his wife, and there be no legal or natural obstruction to the commission of the carnal act, and he afterwards divorce her, the whole dower in this case goes to her.—Shafei maintains that she is here to receive no more than her half dower, because the husband cannot obtain possession of the object of the contract but by actual coition; and the right to the dower is not corroborated and confirmed without enjoyment.—The argument of our doctors is, that the woman has completed her part of the contract, by delivering up her person, and by removing all obstructions, which is the extent of her ability; her right to the recompense is therefore confirmed and corroborated; in the same manner as in a case of sale, where, if the seller have offered delivery of the goods sold, and there be nothing to obstruct seisin on the part of the purchaser, and the latter neglect to make seisin he is considered as having made seisin, and the purchase is afterwards as a trust in the hands of the seller, and the whole of the price is obligatory upon the purchase (ref: 11, pp. 45-46)
It is rather interesting to note that, in the legal procedure to obtain sexual gratification by a man, a woman (a wife or a slave-girl or a captive woman) is merely a servant whose job is only to satisfy her husband sexually. What? This can never be true you might say. In Islam, we can only find the ‘golden’ treatment of women, you contend. Perish the thought. Here is what is written in the same Islamic law book as the actual legal status of a female sex partner in Islam.
Woman is servant and the husband is the person served (ibid, p.47)
Case of marriage on a condition of service from the husband.— ……………it is not lawful that a woman should be in a situation to exact the service of her husband who is a freeman, as this would amount to a reversal of their appointed stations, for one of the requisites of marriage is, that the woman be as a servant, and the man as the person served; but if the service of a husband to wife were to constitute her dower, it would follow that the husband is the servant and the wife as the served: and this being a violation of the requisites of marriage, is therefore illegal; but it is otherwise with the service stipulated to be performed by another free person, with that person’s consent, as this offers no violence to the requisites of the contract; and so also in the case of service of a slave, because the service performed by a slave to his wife is, in fact, performed to his master, by whose consent it is that he undertakes it; and the same with the case of tending flocks, because this is a service of a permanent nature, and admitted to be performed for wives, and therefore, does not violate the requisites of marriage; for the service of the husband to his wife, as a dower, is prohibited only as it may be degrading to the former; but the tending of flocks is not a degrading office.
That’s right, folks! You got it correct. Sex in Islam is really a ‘master and servant’ relationship, a relationship to enjoy a female person that a man has bought with ‘mahr.’
If one still insists that the above Sha’ria rules are not reliable, then one must read the following ahadith that clearly show that a man must pay a woman to have sexual intercourse with her. Islamists often talk of the ‘prostitution’ and the sexual promiscuity in un-Islamic societies. I wonder what they have to say about the following hadith. Kindly note that in this hadith the reason for the payment of the dower money is clearly stated, without any confusion. Yes, a woman is paid for having sex with her. This is the Islamic rule. Full stop.
Besides, please note how a woman is treated for sexual purposes.
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2078:
Narrated Aisha, Ummul
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said: The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians is void. (He said these words) three times. If there is cohabitation, she gets her dower for the intercourse her husband has had. If there is a dispute, the sultan (man in authority) is the guardian of one who has none.
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2044:
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas:
A man came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him), and said: My wife does not prevent the hand of a man who touches her. He said: Divorce her. He then said: I am afraid my inner self may covet her. He said: Then enjoy her.
After going through those references, we can now have a clear notion on what sex means in Islam. The idea that sex is a supreme physical satisfaction for both male and female is absent in Islam. Sex is viewed only from a man’s angle and it is actually considered as a service or a commodity. A man pays a woman to derive this service or to get benefit from the commodity (a woman’s genitalis.) It is like a business contract, in which a woman delivers her vagina and her reproductive organs in exchange for a lump sum (mahr) and for the subsequent maintenance (nafaqah) of her sexual organs
The holy Qur’an exhorts women to maintain their chastity at any cost and to stay at home at all times, unless it is an emergency. Did you ever think about the main reason/s for this ‘home’ imprisonment of women? If you ask any Islamist, he/she will, of course, give you many ‘good’ reasons, including prevention of rape, molestation, adultery and….blah, blah, blah. Please do ignore those explanations from the Islamic apologists. The real reason is actually sex. The women are asked to stay at home to provide sexual services to their men (either her husband, her master or her captor) at any time at his beck and call. Do you not believe this? Here is what the Islamic law says:
The woman’s stay at home is solely for sex (ref.11, p.54)
On the other hand the husband has no power to restrain his wife from going on a journey, or from going abroad, or visiting her friends, until such time as shall have discharged the whole of the Mihr
Moajil, or prompt dower, because a husband’s right to confine his wife at home is solely for the sake of securing to himself the enjoyment of her person, and his right to such enjoyment does not exist until after the payment of the return for it.
Here are more surprises for the reader:
The following is Muhammad’s teaching, as given in the Traditions (see Mishkat, Arabic edition; Babu’n-Nikah):- (ref. 6, p.671)
“When a man calls his wife, she must come, although she be at an oven.”
The greatest of all Islamic scholars, Imam Ghazali writes in his book Ihya
Uloom al Din (ref. 7, p.235):
“……..She should prefer her husband before herself, and before all her relatives, she should keep herself clean at all times for her husband to enjoy her whenever he wishes……..”
This is the real meaning of sex in Islam; it is primarily concerned with the sexual satisfaction (read as male orgasm) of men. Women are simply sexual ‘machines’ that must always be in perfect running condition for its ‘master’ to ride on. The sensitivity of a woman and her desire and expectations have very little relevance in a ‘world’ where the only sexual pleasure that matters most is the orgasm of men! To me, this is also a great insult to all men. Men are simply portrayed as sex ‘maniacs’ who need to copulate every now and then! This, notion of male sexuality, of course, is utterly rubbish. The end result is always pregnancy and guess who suffers for the folly of Islamic men.
What happens if a woman refuses to have sex with her husband when the husband has provided the maintenance? It may sound completely unbelievable, but the Islamic law actually permits a husband to apply force to have sex with her. Shall we call this rape a la Islamic style?
Here is what HEDAYA (ref. 11, p. 141) writes:
One can enjoy a wife by force
But not if she be refractory.—If a wife be disobedient or refractory and go abroad without her husband’s consent, she is not entitled to any support from him, until she return and make submission, because the rejection of the matrimonial restraint in this instance originates with her; but when she returns home, she is then subject to it, for which reason she again becomes entitled to her support as before. It is otherwise where a woman, residing in the house of her husband, refuses to admit him to the conjugal embrace, as she is entitled to maintenance, notwithstanding her opposition, because being then in his power, he may, if he please, enjoys her by force
I shall end this section with a simple comment. A marriageable woman in Islam is simply an object of pleasure to a man (either husband or her master or her captor.) Islam totally disregards the sexual sensitivity of a woman; her wants, desires; preferences and passions. It is a man’s world when it comes to sex in Islam. Men are created to enjoy sex and the women are simply the suppliers of this pleasure. We often find the Islamists vehemently criticising the unbridled freedom of women on sex matters in the secularist/western societies. To these Islamists, it is a completely rotten, decadent and filthy culture. What a double standard, preached by these Islamic apologists, come to think of it! I would like to hear from those Islamists as to what they have to say regarding those legal Islamic provisions quoted above.
Sex with pregnant women
What happens if someone marries a woman and finds her to be already pregnant? It is a very tricky situation, no doubt. In modern societies we hardly come across with this kind of practice. Maybe, during the time of Muhammad, it was not uncommon for the uncultured Beduin Arabs to come across with this situation. The idea of having sex with a pregnant woman is rather disturbing and most men will, perhaps, go for the dissolution of the marriage and will look for an amicable settlement. However, in Islam, the story is different; because the man has already paid (or agreed to pay) the price for the sexual organ of the woman, enjoying her sexually becomes absolutely halal (or a must) for him. What happens to the woman? The woman receives Islamic lashing for having sex outside marriage. Imagine the woman whom you have enjoyed just a while ago is being flogged; one- hundred lashes after the sexual act is over! What happens to the child? The child becomes your slave! This is Islamic justice, pure and simple. Here are two ahadith that deal with this bizarre case.
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2126:
A man from the Ansar called Basrah said: I married a virgin woman in her veil. When I entered upon her, I found her pregnant. (I mentioned this to the Prophet). The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: She will get the dower, for you made her vagina lawful for you. The child will be your slave. When she has begotten (a child), flog her (according to the version of al-Hasan). The version of Ibn
AbusSari has: You people, flog her, or said: inflict hard punishment on him.
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2153:
Narrated Ruwayfi' ibn
Should I tell you what I heard the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) say on the day of Hunayn: It is not lawful for a man who believes in Allah and the last day to water what another has sown with his water (meaning intercourse with women who are pregnant); it is not lawful for a man who believes in Allah and the Last Day to have intercourse with a captive woman till she is free from a menstrual course; and it is not lawful for a man who believes in Allah and the Last Day to sell spoil till it is divided.
How about having sex with menstruating women?
The following hadis tells about the time of Bibi Aisha when she was having her period and what Muhammad (pbuh) did during this time.
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0270:
Narrated Aisha, Ummul
Ghurab said that his paternal aunt narrated to him that she asked Aisha: What if one of us menstruates and she and her husband have no bed except one? She replied: I relate to you what the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) had done.
One night he entered (upon me) while I was menstruating. He went to the place of his prayer, that is, to the place of prayer reserved (for this purpose) in his house. He did not return until I felt asleep heavily, and he felt pain from cold. And he said: Come near me. I said: I am menstruating. He said: Uncover your thighs. I, therefore, uncovered both of my thighs. Then he put his cheek and chest on my thighs and I lent upon he until he became warm and slept.
There can be many interpretations from the above story. To be fair, I see this hadis as telling a good side of Muhammad (pbuh) in the sense that he did not treat menstruation as a disease to a woman, but rather treated Aisha with utmost love and affection. This kind treatment of Muhammad (pbuh) to a menstruating, young and vivacious Aisah is definitely praiseworthy. I leave it to the readers to form his/her own opinion about the implication of this incident as reported by Ummul
Mu’minin, Bibi Aisha.
Here is another hadis from Sahi
Bukhari that tells us that Muhammad was very loving to his favourite wife, Aisha during her period.
Mohammed used to embrace Aisha during her period...3.33.247
Bukhari:Volume 3, Book 33, Number 247:
The Prophet used to embrace me during my menses. He also used to put his head out of the mosque while he was in Itikaf, and I would wash it during my menses.
So, what is halal for a man when his woman is having her period? Here is the Islamic solution:
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0212:
Narrated Abdullah ibn
Abdullah asked the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him): What is lawful for me to do with my wife when she is menstruating? He replied: What is above the waist-wrapper is lawful for you.
The narrator also mentioned (the lawfulness of) eating with a woman in menstruation, and he transmitted the tradition in full.
If one, accidentally, has sex with his menstruating wife (or a woman), then here too, are the divine solutions.
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2164:
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas:
If a man has sexual intercourse (with menstruating woman) during her
bleeding, he should give one dinar as sadaqah, and if he does so when bleeding has stopped, he should give half a dinar as sadaqah.
If you have sexual intercourse with your wife while she is menstruating, then you must give one dinar or half a dinar in alms...1.0264
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0264:
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas:
The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said about a person who had intercourse with his wife while she was menstruating: He must give one dinar or half a dinar in alms.
Here are the recommendations of Sayyidina Ali and Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) for a woman having heavy flow during her period. Why do today’s women need to consult a gynaecologist during their period problems when there is the handy solution from this in ahadith? Please do think about this Islamic answer for menstruation problems!
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0302:
Narrated Ali ibn
The woman who has a prolonged flow of blood should wash herself every day when her menstrual period is over and take a woollen cloth greased with fat or oil (to tie over the private parts).
Sahih Muslim Book 3, Number 0647:
'A'isha reported: A woman asked the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) how to wash herself after menstruation. She mentioned that he taught her how to take bath and then told her to take a piece of cotton with musk and purify herself. She said: How should I purify myself with that? He (the Holy Prophet) said: Praise be to Allah, purify yourself with it, and covered his face, Sufyan b. 'Uyaina gave a demonstration by covering his face (as the Holy Prophet had done). 'A'isha reported: I dragged her to my side for I had understood what the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) intended and, therefore, said: Apply this cotton with musk to the trace of blood. Ibn 'Umar in his hadith (has mentioned the words of 'A'isha thus): Apply it to the marks of blood.
Sahih Muslim Book 3, Number 0658:
On the authority of 'A'isha: Umm Habiba asked the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) about the blood (which flows beyond the period of menstruation). 'A'isha said: I saw her wash-tub full of blood. The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Remain away (from prayer) equal (to the length of time) that your menses prevented you. After this (after the period of usual courses) bathe yourself and offer prayer.
It is quite interesting to note that Muhammad (pbuh) encouraged his followers to have foreplay with their women before engaging in actual coition. He chided them for jumping flat on women like animals. We read from Ghazali’s book some interesting recommendation of foreplay by Muhammad (ref.7. p.233):
‘Let there be foreplay between them and before approaching each other they should begin by exchanging pleasant words and kisses. The Prophet said: “None of you should fall on top on his wife the way the animals fall on each other, but let there be between them a messenger.” They asked: “What is this messenger, O Prophet of God?” He said: The kiss and the pleasant words.” Then if he finishes first he should wait for his wife until she has also finished.’
It is definitely good to learn that Muhammad (pbuh) did recommend ‘Islamic’ foreplay for a mutually satisfying sexual act.
Kissing and sucking during fasting
We also learn from Bibi Aisha that the Prophet used to kiss her and suck her tongue while he was fasting. How nice of him! Imagine a fifty-two years (at least) old man kissing and sucking a nine or ten years old girl!
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 13, Number 2380:
Narrated Aisha, Ummul
The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) used to kiss her and suck her tongue when he was fasting.
Please do not fall into delusion that a young, married couple can engage in kissing and sucking while they are fasting. This kind of foreplay during fasting is applicable only for an old man, perhaps above fifty years. This is the Islamic rule.
Taste the honey and sweetness of intercourse
Hila marriage: boon for a professional sex maniac!
In Islam, once a husband divorces his wife irrevocably, or with three pronouncements of divorce, that woman becomes totally ‘haram’ for him. He cannot remarry her until she marries another man and the marriage is consummated and that temporary husband divorces her. Only after this second divorce takes place and the woman goes through her normal idda (3 periods), then only the former husband can re-marry her. Islamists often cite this as a deterrent for the husband to think carefully before divorcing his wife/s irrevocably. This is Hila marriage and is sanctioned in Qur’an in verse 2:230
002.230 So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably), He cannot, after that, re-marry her until after she has married another husband and He has divorced her. In that case there is no blame on either of them if they re-unite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah. Such are the limits ordained by Allah, which He makes plain to those who understand.
This absurd/bizarre system opens the door for a clever ‘Casanova’ to have unlimited sex for almost free. Once a woman has been divorced, there will not be many ‘respectable’ and ‘good’ men to marry her just for a brief period, only to divorce her after ‘enjoying’ her, to be re-married to her former husband. However, many sex maniacs will have a great time acting as professional bridegrooms and enjoying women for a short duration. This is a great Islamic way to have unlimited free sex (almost free, because the dower for such hapless women must be close to zilch) by uttering a few holy words. It is stated that in some Islamic paradises the divorce rate is high. Imagine what a great time these ‘sex maniacs’ will have sleeping virtually every night with different women?
Another strange matter is that, this temporary marriage is not just for namesake; the short-term husband must have sex with the woman for her to be halal to her former husband. This is the taste of sweetness of intercourse. Here are a few ahadith that arerelated to hila to entertain you.
Sunaan Abu Dawud:Book 12, Number 2302:
Narrated Aisha, Ummul
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) was asked about a man who divorced his wife three times, and she married another who entered upon her, but divorced her before having intercourse with her, whether she was lawful for the former husband. She said: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) replied: She is not lawful for the first (husband) until she tastes the honey of the other husband and he tastes her honey.
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3354:
'A'isha (Allah he pleased with her) reported: There came the wife of Rifa'a to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) and said: I was married to Rifa'a but he divorced me, making my divorce irrevocable. Afterwards I married Abd al-Rahman b. al-Zubair, but all he possesses is like the fringe of a garment (i. e. he is sexually weak). Thereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) smiled, and said: Do you wish to return to Rifa'a. (You) cannot (do it) until you have tasted his sweetness and he ('Abd al-Rahman) has tasted your sweetness. Abu Bakr was at that time near him (the Holy Prophet) and Khalid (b. Sa'id) was at the door waiting for the permission to be granted to him to enter), He (Khalid) said; Abu Bakr, do you hear what she is saying loudly in the presence of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him)?
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3357:
'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) was asked about a woman whom a man married and then divorced her, and then she married (another) person, and she was divorced before sexual intercourse with her, whether it was lawful for her first husband (to marry her in this state). He (the Holy Prophet) said: No, until he has tasted her sweetness.
Muwatta Book 28, Number 28.7.17:
Yahya related to me from Malik from al-Miswar
Rifaa al-Quradhi from az-Zubayr
az-Zubayr that Rifaa
Simwal divorced his wife, Tamima bint Wahb, in the time of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, three times. Then she married Abd
az-Zubayr and he turned from her and could not consummate the marriage and so he parted from her. Rifaa wanted to marry her again and it was mentioned to the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and he forbade him to marry her. He said, "She is not halal for you until she has tasted the sweetness of intercourse."
No washing after urination/sex
In a previous (part 1/6) section, we noted that ghusl(bath) is obligatory after every act of sex and urination. However, the following ahadith leaves you in complete confusion. Even the Prophet (pbuh) himself slept after having sex without going through the obligatory ritual of ghusl!
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0042:
Narrated Aisha, Ummul
The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) urinated and Umar was standing behind him with a jug of water. He said: What is this, Umar? He replied: Water for you to perform ablution with. He said: I have not been commanded to perform ablution every time I urinate. If I were to do so, it would become a sunnah.
Sunaan Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0228:
Narrated Aisha, Ummul
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) would sleep while he was sexually defiled without touching water.